Comments on: The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying: A Complete Guide for Teachers and Parents http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/ Press Releases, News & Information from Atlantic Publishing Company Fri, 18 Jul 2008 17:56:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU By: Michelle Asid http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-493 Michelle Asid Wed, 13 Feb 2008 00:28:21 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-493 5 Stars! The Complete Guide To Understanding Controlling & Stopping Bullies & Bullying, gives a very realistic and down to earth look into the world of bullies and their victims. If you think bullying starts in school and ends there. Think again. This book gives an in depth look into what bullies are all about explaining their characteristics and why they do what they do. The world of bullies and bullying leaves behind a wake of victims. Bullying does not always start in school but at times starts in the home. This book is highly recommended for teachers, school staff, and parents. This is a very real and often times harsh world we live in. Margaret R. Kohut is brilliant in giving her in depth revelations and case studies from various therapists. This book is not for the squeamish it makes you open your eyes to the real world of kids who are bullies and are bullied and how to recognize the signs. Victims of bullying carry this trauma through to their adulthood and so do the bullies. 5 Stars! The Complete Guide To Understanding Controlling & Stopping Bullies & Bullying, gives a very realistic and down to earth look into the world of bullies and their victims. If you think bullying starts in school and ends there. Think again. This book gives an in depth look into what bullies are all about explaining their characteristics and why they do what they do. The world of bullies and bullying leaves behind a wake of victims. Bullying does not always start in school but at times starts in the home. This book is highly recommended for teachers, school staff, and parents. This is a very real and often times harsh world we live in.
Margaret R. Kohut is brilliant in giving her in depth revelations and case studies from various therapists. This book is not for the squeamish it makes you open your eyes to the real world of kids who are bullies and are bullied and how to recognize the signs. Victims of bullying carry this trauma through to their adulthood and so do the bullies.

]]> By: Austin Bates http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-490 Austin Bates Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:04:00 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-490 After reading Margaret Kohut’s, The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying I feel awakened to a new wave of crime in the form of bullying. Its poignant excerpts serve as a reminder of how ignoring the danger that bully’s pose all too often bring only tragedy and death to our doorstep. Inside its pages is a detailed explanation of how bullying occurs, what to look for, and how to prevent it. Having read this book I now feel better prepared to protect my own children, as well as how to stay vigilant against bullying of others children. After reading Margaret Kohut’s, The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying I feel awakened to a new wave of crime in the form of bullying. Its poignant excerpts serve as a reminder of how ignoring the danger that bully’s pose all too often bring only tragedy and death to our doorstep. Inside its pages is a detailed explanation of how bullying occurs, what to look for, and how to prevent it. Having read this book I now feel better prepared to protect my own children, as well as how to stay vigilant against bullying of others children.

]]> By: Angela Eward-Mangione http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-400 Angela Eward-Mangione Mon, 14 Jan 2008 20:57:16 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-400 Bullying: A Serious and Dangerous Cultural Problem As Margaret R. Kohut, author of The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying notes; on April 6, 2007, Twenty-three-year-old Seung-Hui Cho opened fire at Virginia Tech, killing 32 students, wounding 25, and also taking his own life. An investigation of Cho’s personal history revealed that he had suffered bullying in both middle and high school for a speech defect. On October 16, 2006, a 13-year-old Missouri girl named Megan Meier committed suicide after a neighbor—the mother of a schoolmate, who posed online as a boy—harassed and bullied Meier online, after initially gaining her trust. On April 20, 2000, teenagers Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold—whom Kohut included in her book’s dedication—entered Columbine High school with assault weapons and homemade bombs. They killed 12 classmates, a teacher, and injured 18 other students before shooting and killing themselves. Kohut opens her book by profiling two of these cases—the Columbine and Virginia Tech Massacres—as well as one additional case. She seems to suggest, without directly stating as such, that a history of being bullied contributed to the criminal behaviors of Cho, Harris, and Klebold. The suicide of Meier, as well as of Emmet Fralick, a fourteen-year-old who resided in Halifax, Nova Scotia, whom Kohut also mentions in her introduction, reveals other extreme and tragic potential results of bullying. Kohut’s credentials and professional experiences as a Correction Officer in an Adult and Juvenile Maximum Security Correction Facility, a Courtroom Bailiff, Bounty Hunter, Forensic Counselor, Addiction Therapist, as well as time spent in private practice as a Social Worker, all support the case she makes for bullying as a serious and dangerous cultural problem. Kohut also successfully provides relevant data to support this assertion. In this book, she articulately, systematically, and logically paints a comprehensive picture of bullying. In the first section, she includes clear definitions and types of bullying behavior, “red flags” to look for, as well as the price that everyone involved with bullying pays. Next, she details accessible yet sophisticated forensic profiles of bullies and their victims. She also dispels relevant myths. In Section three, Kohut offers solutions for parents, teachers, victims, and bystanders. Educators and Educational Administrators, as well as parents, will find her chapter on creating zero tolerance for School Bullying extremely useful. Moreover, Kohut also briefly addresses legal aspects of bullying. She concludes with an appendix of tools—including various “pledges” that students, teachers, parents, schools and communities can make—which supply opportunities of applications for adults and children alike. Bullying: A Serious and Dangerous Cultural Problem

As Margaret R. Kohut, author of The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying notes; on April 6, 2007, Twenty-three-year-old Seung-Hui Cho opened fire at Virginia Tech, killing 32 students, wounding 25, and also taking his own life. An investigation of Cho’s personal history revealed that he had suffered bullying in both middle and high school for a speech defect. On October 16, 2006, a 13-year-old Missouri girl named Megan Meier committed suicide after a neighbor—the mother of a schoolmate, who posed online as a boy—harassed and bullied Meier online, after initially gaining her trust. On April 20, 2000, teenagers Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold—whom Kohut included in her book’s dedication—entered Columbine High school with assault weapons and homemade bombs. They killed 12 classmates, a teacher, and injured 18 other students before shooting and killing themselves.

Kohut opens her book by profiling two of these cases—the Columbine and Virginia Tech Massacres—as well as one additional case. She seems to suggest, without directly stating as such, that a history of being bullied contributed to the criminal behaviors of Cho, Harris, and Klebold. The suicide of Meier, as well as of Emmet Fralick, a fourteen-year-old who resided in Halifax, Nova Scotia, whom Kohut also mentions in her introduction, reveals other extreme and tragic potential results of bullying.

Kohut’s credentials and professional experiences as a Correction Officer in an Adult and Juvenile Maximum Security Correction Facility, a Courtroom Bailiff, Bounty Hunter, Forensic Counselor, Addiction Therapist, as well as time spent in private practice as a Social Worker, all support the case she makes for bullying as a serious and dangerous cultural problem. Kohut also successfully provides relevant data to support this assertion. In this book, she articulately, systematically, and logically paints a comprehensive picture of bullying. In the first section, she includes clear definitions and types of bullying behavior, “red flags” to look for, as well as the price that everyone involved with bullying pays. Next, she details accessible yet sophisticated forensic profiles of bullies and their victims. She also dispels relevant myths. In Section three, Kohut offers solutions for parents, teachers, victims, and bystanders. Educators and Educational Administrators, as well as parents, will find her chapter on creating zero tolerance for School Bullying extremely useful. Moreover, Kohut also briefly addresses legal aspects of bullying. She concludes with an appendix of tools—including various “pledges” that students, teachers, parents, schools and communities can make—which supply opportunities of applications for adults and children alike.

]]> By: Tracy Powell http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-315 Tracy Powell Fri, 14 Dec 2007 20:59:35 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-315 Bullying is on the rise in our nation’s schools, yet little has been published about how to deal with it. That is, until now. “The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling and Stopping Bullies & Bullying” gives parents and teachers a tool to tackle the issue. In a no-nonsense and straightforward manner, the author identifies warning signs – “red flags” – of both the bully and the bullied. Included is a section for parents on solutions, such as how to create “bully-proof” kids and “bully-busting” in your home. For school administrators, a chapter is devoted to the law regarding bullying. And for everyone who is or may be affected by bullying, this book provides template “anti-bully pledges” in an appendix, as well as safety checklists – real musts for meeting this challenge in the real world. Bullying is on the rise in our nation’s schools, yet little has been published about how to deal with it. That is, until now. “The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling and Stopping Bullies & Bullying” gives parents and teachers a tool to tackle the issue. In a no-nonsense and straightforward manner, the author identifies warning signs – “red flags” – of both the bully and the bullied. Included is a section for parents on solutions, such as how to create “bully-proof” kids and “bully-busting” in your home. For school administrators, a chapter is devoted to the law regarding bullying. And for everyone who is or may be affected by bullying, this book provides template “anti-bully pledges” in an appendix, as well as safety checklists – real musts for meeting this challenge in the real world.

]]> By: Brye Wiskman http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-258 Brye Wiskman Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:13:30 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-258 It is time to take the blinders off and confront a problem that every school in America is struggling with. A must read for every parent and teacher, this complete guide is an eye opener. It reviews all aspects of the issue from the bullies themselves, their audience and the victim. When you are done reading this book, you will have a greater understanding of this nationwide problem. Bullies are a fact of life in every school and I believe we would be hard pressed to find a person that did not experience bullying in one form or another; even if it was just witnessing it. As explained in more detail in this book, the consequences of bullying can be devastating and we as a society are paying the consequences; not only with school shootings and teenage suicides, but with bullies that have turned into adult criminals. Teenage bullying can also lead to workplace bullies in the future. Witnesses to bullying behavior and bully victims suffer the consequences of the tormenter for the rest of their lives. As explained in this guide, bystanders and victims may develop self-esteem issues as they grow older. They never fully get over the effects of the bully. When reading this book, it brought back the memories of my school days and made me understand what my kids may be going through today. Schools always preach about bringing the bullying activity out in the open, but this book explains why this is so important. It will also give you strategies to recognize if your child is suffering and explain how you can help them. Bullying has always been kept quit, it is time to shout about it through the rafters and shine a light on this problem. Share this guide with every parent and teacher; spread the word and increase everyone’s understanding. It is time to take the blinders off and confront a problem that every school in America is struggling with. A must read for every parent and teacher, this complete guide is an eye opener. It reviews all aspects of the issue from the bullies themselves, their audience and the victim. When you are done reading this book, you will have a greater understanding of this nationwide problem.

Bullies are a fact of life in every school and I believe we would be hard pressed to find a person that did not experience bullying in one form or another; even if it was just witnessing it. As explained in more detail in this book, the consequences of bullying can be devastating and we as a society are paying the consequences; not only with school shootings and teenage suicides, but with bullies that have turned into adult criminals. Teenage bullying can also lead to workplace bullies in the future.

Witnesses to bullying behavior and bully victims suffer the consequences of the tormenter for the rest of their lives. As explained in this guide, bystanders and victims may develop self-esteem issues as they grow older. They never fully get over the effects of the bully.

When reading this book, it brought back the memories of my school days and made me understand what my kids may be going through today. Schools always preach about bringing the bullying activity out in the open, but this book explains why this is so important. It will also give you strategies to recognize if your child is suffering and explain how you can help them. Bullying has always been kept quit, it is time to shout about it through the rafters and shine a light on this problem. Share this guide with every parent and teacher; spread the word and increase everyone’s understanding.

]]> By: Artem Chobanian http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-232 Artem Chobanian Fri, 23 Nov 2007 08:45:55 +0000 http://atlanticpub.wordpress.com/2007/11/21/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-controlling-and-stopping-bullies-bullying-a-complete-guide-for-teachers-and-parents/#comment-232 When I was a child, I changed four schools moving from city to city. I had never seen any bullying there, though there were lots of ‘cool’ guys. As a teacher now, I see no signs of bullying in the school I work, and I am happy with that. But I know it’s a social scourge and this book is a very nice try to look deep into the issue and try to find a way-out. The book terrified me right from the beginning! It is written as a warning and keeps you attached to the problem! The book is full of CASE STUDIES, which provide lots of examples of how this or that case was handled, the aftermath and the lesson we all were taught. The author describes the methods parents and children can use to escape the burden of bullying. Making our children ‘bully-proof’ is very necessary and only then we can start eradicating the bullying itself. Whether it is possible or not depends on us, the adults. My zest for the book was immense. At first, I couldn’t stop reading it, but then my only thought was to finish it as soon as I could! From chapter to chapter, I saddened more reading of neglect, indifference, and bystanders. One thought struck me most. Why so many bullied guys committed crimes, not just injuring but KILLING people?! Is it because this offence is so hard to tolerate? I guess so. Children’s spirits are weak and not all of them become stronger with age. That’s why the author thinks so much depends on teachers and parents, and I fully agree with her. You know, I recall Forrest Gump’s story… He was an idiot, he was bullied as well… But he survived! And the reasons for that were the phrases his beloved people would say: “Run, Forrest! Run!” and “Life is not a box of chocolates…” As a final remark, I’d like to say that this book just has to be read, even at publics meetings, to raise people’s awareness of a terrible incident/accident we all have to get rid of! Perhaps, while you are reading this review, there’s another case of bullying is happening in the neighborhood… When I was a child, I changed four schools moving from city to city. I had never seen any bullying there, though there were lots of ‘cool’ guys. As a teacher now, I see no signs of bullying in the school I work, and I am happy with that. But I know it’s a social scourge and this book is a very nice try to look deep into the issue and try to find a way-out.
The book terrified me right from the beginning! It is written as a warning and keeps you attached to the problem! The book is full of CASE STUDIES, which provide lots of examples of how this or that case was handled, the aftermath and the lesson we all were taught. The author describes the methods parents and children can use to escape the burden of bullying. Making our children ‘bully-proof’ is very necessary and only then we can start eradicating the bullying itself. Whether it is possible or not depends on us, the adults.
My zest for the book was immense. At first, I couldn’t stop reading it, but then my only thought was to finish it as soon as I could! From chapter to chapter, I saddened more reading of neglect, indifference, and bystanders. One thought struck me most. Why so many bullied guys committed crimes, not just injuring but KILLING people?! Is it because this offence is so hard to tolerate? I guess so. Children’s spirits are weak and not all of them become stronger with age. That’s why the author thinks so much depends on teachers and parents, and I fully agree with her.
You know, I recall Forrest Gump’s story… He was an idiot, he was bullied as well… But he survived! And the reasons for that were the phrases his beloved people would say: “Run, Forrest! Run!” and “Life is not a box of chocolates…”
As a final remark, I’d like to say that this book just has to be read, even at publics meetings, to raise people’s awareness of a terrible incident/accident we all have to get rid of!
Perhaps, while you are reading this review, there’s another case of bullying is happening in the neighborhood…

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